Valentine's Day 1998
On Valentine's Day in 1998, Dave asked me to be his wife. I said "yes" of course! And that set the stage for 11 years (and counting!) of marriage and three beautiful children. I oftentimes forget that our marriage is not conventional in the sense that we're different races. To us, our marriage is normal - very normal! It's home, work, the kids, just the beautiful ebb and flow of ordinary, everyday life. Most people would assume that being an interracial couple would present numerous cultural obstacles that would strain a relationship. But for us, that hasn't been the case. We both pretty much grew up in similar "cultures" - both from hardworking, two parent, Christian homes. The only difference being Dave's family is originally from up North, while my family has deep Southern roots. We've been very fortunate to find acceptance of our marriage. Some people express positive support, commenting on how beautiful our children are. But for most, it's a non-issue. Which is fine by me! Because it's a non-issue for us as well.
Richard & Mildred Loving
But life wasn't always easy for interracial couples in this country. In July 1958, Richard and Mildred Loving were arrested during a nighttime raid of their Virginia home. Their crime, being married - Richard was white and Mildred was black and Native American. The couple was jailed, convicted of felonies and banished from the state of Virginia. Exiled to Washington DC, the couple longed to return to their home and families back in Virginia. With assistance from the ACLU, the couple took their case all the way to the Supreme Court. In June 1967, the Supreme Court ruled unanimously in favor of the Lovings in their case against the State of Virginia. As a result of the Supreme Court decision, sixteen states were ordered to overturn their bans on interracial marriage.
Tonight at 9 PM EST, HBO will air a documentary about Richard and Mildred entitled "The Loving Story". This is one of those times I wish we hadn't canceled our HBO! A great story of love on this day devoted to love.
Happy Valentine's Day!